What Story Are You Telling Yourself?
Every moment of your day, there is generally a story living in your mind. The only time you might not be conscious of a story in your mind is in the case where you might have mastered some form of meditation that manages to propel you into a place where there are no thoughts.
Now, there’s nothing really wrong with “stories of the mind” because the activities of the mind are the nature of every spiritual human being. The mind is always occupied with a thought, and I submit to you that each thought is actually a building block to a story of the mind. So the most important task before you at any point in time is to be mindful of the story that is living in your mind. And, to be mindful of your story is a daunting task, to say the least. Who among us can actually watch the several thousand thoughts that cross the mind each day?
We live our entire life in our stories, i.e., stories of the past and of the future. Our stories generally involve others or are focused on ourselves, i.e., the ME. We repeat our stories of the mind to ourselves or share them with others over and over again on a regular basis.
Right this moment are you conscious of the story that occupies the space in your mind? Take a moment and think about the story that you are telling yourself. How does that story make you feel? Does that story (thought) make you feel sad, happy, confident, insecure, angry, frustrated, or cheerful?
And then there’s the matter of how much time to spend thinking about that particular story. I met a lady today who was focused on sharing her story of the past 25 years and was adamant that her husband physically abused and raped her continuously throughout their marriage. Every time she started to share her story, it came with an influx of tears. Interesting enough, I was not asking her to share the horrific story of abuse. No matter what topic we were discussing, she kept swinging back around to the fact that she had been abused and raped over and over again.
Of course, her husband vigorously denied that any such events happened in their relationship –especially, in the manner described. In fact, in his story, he shared specific incidents of him being abused at the hands of his wife. Ultimately, it does not matter who was the actual abuser. Each was a storyteller of the stories in his/her mind. From where I sat, the emotional toll of telling the story was quite heavy, and had the wife stopped for just a nano second and asked “What story am I telling myself?”, she could have shifted from that state of self-inflicted emotional pain she was experiencing.
Do not spend so much time on negative and painful past life stories. Live in the now. Call your spirit back to the now that is where your power is located.
Peace and blessings, Esther Charlene
If you have time, you might want to read the next article Sharing Your Stories With Others Comes With Responsibility